Wednesday, 6 November 2013

IWSG: Faking It Baby

This is going to be short because I'm in writing mode!

Sounds great. Trouble is, this is how I feel about my writing.

So, I've decided to change the way I write my IWSG posts (details about this awesome monthly bloghop on my sidebar). From now on, I want to avoid writing down my insecurities. I don't want to give them life by putting them into words, because honestly, none of my insecurities about writing have gone away. If anything, they've gotten worse.

No. From now on, I will try and write about what I can do to get through the difficult stuff. And instead of rehashing my insecurities each month, I'm going to be positive.

But how can you be positive when you have a penchant for being pessimistic?

By faking it. That's right, I'm gonna fake it till I make it.

So on the inside I may be  . . .

on the outside, it's all . . . 

and a little . . .

until I don't have to fake it anymore.

Thank you for stopping by today, and thanks to Alex and CD Coffelt, Tina Downey, Isis Rushdan, Michelle Wallace for co-hosting this round of IWSG. Wishing everyone a productive writing month, especially to all you crazy NaNoNites. (: 


  1. Elise, we're all faking it. There's no magical recipe for success. It's long agonizing work. It's great you're tackling NaNo. You're braver than I. Good luck!! :-)

    1. Thanks Lexa. I'm not participating in NaNo, I am using the spirit of NaNo to buckle down on my rewrites and other projects, but I'll still take that good luck you're handing out. (:

  2. I love the little video clips especially your inside versus your outside. I hope the "until you make it" part works. My insecurities this month are related to NaNo.

  3. So, you're saying I should FAKE that I know how to fix my manuscript in the next starting-over draft and just jump in? That does sound like me. I'm a hopeless pantster. But it's also what got me 40k into a draft that was completely messed up ...

    I'm trying to outline. I hate outlines. I guess I should fake it. :D

  4. Love this idea... especially if there will be more pics of Jensen in the future!!! <3
    Faking is a great idea because that's what our fiction stories are... making up stuff. It's a win-win!

  5. Oh, you so have it bad for the 'Supernatural' boys, especially one in particular ; )

  6. Fake it until you make it! Great attitude, Elise.

  7. I'm all for positivity, but I think it's okay to give yourself some time to wallow once in awhile. The trick is to not wallow too long...or eat too much chocolate. :)

  8. I've been feeling pretty glum about my writing recently too, not sure why. The problem with faking it is it still requires plenty of energy which is the one thing I'm lacking. I can see why Stephen King wrote on cocaine for so many years. Currently I'm trying meditation to clear my mind and exercise to feel more energetic (which I haven't done in a good long while, so creaky joints and sore everything, yay!). Life would be so much easier if my brain would just work with me rather than against me.


  9. I personally think it would be very hard to fake a baby. I mean, you'd have to start with small pillows under your clothes, and then get bigger pillows, and then somehow fake the birth, and then have to get like a stuffed pretend-baby-doll or something that you lug around. It just seems like a a lot of work for not much reason...

    ...oh, wait...

    Nevermind -- I misread your post title...


  10. Rhonda: I can only imagine how stressful NaNo can be. Sending you lots of positive vibes and good luck!

    Holy Ghost: *turns on radio--dancing* (;

    Dianne: Same here. I'm a pantster and have a 420 page ms that's a hot mess. Outline? Yep, I'm on that too and will most certainly try to fake it. xD

    Jackie: Yes! A woman who understands. Pictures of Jensen make it all better. :D

    Mark: I haven't the foggiest idea what you mean....*cough, cough* ;)

    Alex: Thanks Alex (:

    Madeline: I agree, and I think I've wallowed enough. Now I’m hungry for chocolate. (:

    Mood: Maybe it's the change in seasons.....and you're right it does take energy and so far exercise hasn’t given me any extra energy, just a visit to the podiatrist. I didn't know King wrote on cocaine, but I'm not surprised. Meditation would most likely put me to sleep seeing how I'm so tired all the time, but I do hope it works for you.

    Chris: LOL! :D

  11. looks to me like Jensen is doing some naughty business in that second pic :) Not that we mind....

  12. What did that car ever do to you? Hammering away on it is just rude, haha fake it to make it

  13. Love the gifs :P Great philosophy, too - I find the insecurities never really go away, but being positive is the way to go!

  14. Love it!! I'm a big believer in faking it til you make it :) And totally love the gifs!

  15. Try outlining from the end backwards. It works. It really works!

    Great plan, Elise. Do what's best for you. :)

  16. I go back and forth with this myself. On one hand, does giving my insecurities words give them life? On the other hand, does barfing them out help release them from spinning in my head? I choose release. ;)

  17. LOL, yup, fake it til you make it!! It's funny, but there IS a lot to be said for focusing on the positive and believing in yourself, and not listening to all those voices of doubt and fear and pessimism. It sounds great to me!

  18. Love the Star Trek and Supernatural gifs LOL. I'm totally faking it too, all the time. I love your idea of not giving the insecurities the power that comes from writing them down. Something to think about for next month.

  19. Fake it 'til you make it. Then keep faking it because that's how you made it.

  20. That is so me on the inside. And on the outside a lot days, too, honestly. It's good to here that you're in writing mode!! ^_^ You'll get there. To that confident place. Then when insecurity bites your ankle, you'll just look at it and laugh. :)

  21. GIFs are the best! I'm so sorry that voicing your insecurities is making them worse. It makes me feel better when I do it, but I suppose it doesn't work that way for everyone. So, do what you gotta do, girl! Good luck with everything. ;)

  22. Hi Elise,

    You have to do what feels right for you. Luckily, when it comes to writing, I have no insecurities. I just write for the hell of it. It's just therapy and that's not a bad thing.

    Indeed, focus on the positives as best you can. For what it's worth, you know I'm always discreetly in the background. I'm always around if you need to chat. Help each other does help ourselves.

    Indeed, never give insecurities the oxygen.

    Take care, Elise.

    Gary :)

  23. Oh, man--I love how you went from "FightClub violent" to "dancing with Disney"! It's hard for me to imagine you being insecure--you're hilarious and talented--what's there to fake?

  24. Dean smashing stuff is definitely a great metaphor. Whether you fake it or not as long as you keep going and don't quit it's fine.

  25. Dezzy: LOL! You totally made me look at that pic differently. I like how you think, hehee. And no, we don't mind at all... ;)

    Pat: You should have heard what that car was saying about you. :P

    Emma: Being positive is definitely something I need to work on. (:

    Meradeth: I had fun looking for the gifs, :D

    Melissa: I like that idea. A lot. I'll try it this weekend. (:

    Julie: I've tried release for years, but it doesn't seem to help for me, so I’m trying something different. Focus on the positive and to Hell with the negative...something along those lines I guess, lol!

    Liz: Not sure if I'll work, but worth a try. (:

    Julie: Thanks Julie. I'll see next months if this works...fingers crossed. (:

    JE Oneil: LOL, I like that. (:

    Krystal: Thanks Krystal. Not sure if I’ll ever get to that confident place, but I'll sure as hell try. (:

    Cathy: I'm trying something different, maybe it'll work, maybe not, but I just gotta try. (:

    Gary: Thanks Gary. "never give insecurities the oxygen." You said it better. (:

    Sam: Aww, thanks, hon. (((hugs)))

    Sheena-kay: "don't quit..." I'm not planning on it, but some days it's not easy, and then there's Dean... (:

  26. I also have a saying,"Don't speak it into existence." Same concept as putting it in writing.

    One of the first things I did to fake it until I made it was to drop the word, "aspiring" before "writer." Or any other synonym to that nature (wannabe). You write? You're a writer. I don't care what anybody else says...we all come to this point on our own paths. I certainly didn't go to college for it, but I also know a heckuva lot about writing, and I love to write, so I put on the outfit and wear it proudly.

    M.L. Swift, Writer

  27. I like your visual post this month! Funny, but I've been having the same thoughts. I'm always insecure in regards to my writing (and lots of other things) but I do love encouraging others. So that's what I'm going to do, at least through the IWSG. Sure, I have my insecurities but I think those always come through in my regular posts :/. And it's therapeutic to voice our insecurities into the world of those who understand. So maybe I'll do a bit of both. Depends...but I do love the idea of faking it until you make it!


  28. Sounds like a good plan, Elise. Hope you manage to wrangle your insecurities into submission.

  29. you mean you're going to stuff your bra and fake it??? yes! i love it! girl, you are so cute. i love you. i'm so happy that your in writing mode. best mode to be in...when you're a writer. haha... i, too, don't really like delving into my insecurities but remaining positive. good luck chica! can't wait to see what book "is in the oven".

  30. Huzzah for the writing mode! And posts with gifs always brighten my day. All best to you! :)

  31. Woot, woot! That's the way to do it. =) Like all things, at first you resist, then accept, them embrace. Go with it!

  32. Dean is the man. I'd say you are the man too, but that would be awkward :P

  33. Aloha my favorite French-type peep :)

    Listen, you do what a MadamE needs to do to get through this - and don't worry anything else.

    Delighted to hear you are in full-on writing mode - awesome (I'm doing a little baldman can't dance jive) and long may that last :)

    PS.. I *cracked* up when I read the labels at the bottom of the post..... tooo funny :)

    You go with your big, bad baguette self :)

  34. I like this faking it idea :) Good luck lady! :)

  35. Don't fake it, baby.
    Let is all hang out...
    This is the best kind of writing!

  36. Fake it till you make it!!
    I'll toast to that!
    Take care Elise!

  37. Let it loose - just get it all out! That's what I'm doing during NaNo. I'm all caught up, but it ain't pretty.

    Have a productive week!!!

  38. I'll fake it with you. :) Hope NaNo's going good for you. Did you decide to do it?

  39. Positive is the way to be! Happy writing!

  40. I always say, you are what you pretend to be. Fake confidence until you have it! Glad to hear you're in writing mode. Woo hoo!


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